When the memorial video came on today at church, I hurriedly grabbed my belongings and left my pew. As tears streamed down my face and blurred my vision as I left the church, I realized Memorial Day weekend would never be the same. It used to be a weekend to remember fallen soldiers and of family reunions, cookouts, and mini-vacations. Although it’s to remember those who died serving our country, it is now also a reminder of a special loved one gone far too soon.
Suddenly the colorful flowers at the cemetery have a deeper meaning. Suddenly the memorial posts on Facebook really hit home. You sit and look at them for a while instead of giving the posts a quick passing glance like you did in the past.
Suddenly the memorial video at church isn’t just a sad tribute to those who have went on to their Heavenly Home. Instead, it rocks you to the core and is unexpectedly too much to bear because it is yet another reminder that your loved one is no longer here.
Suddenly the memorial stories on the radio are all too relatable. Used to, you would’ve tuned it out until the next song came on, but now you listen intently. Their pain and sadness is very familiar.
This weekend is about remembering, but for some reason it seems to be a constant reminder of our loss. I pray with God’s strength I can remember the love, our favorite memories together, his smile, etc. and not be so focused on the loss.
Your friends may be at the lake, or family reunions, or hosting cookouts, and you’re just trying to make it through this long, 3-day weekend. And that’s okay!! You’re not alone!
Take time to remember your loved one. Go to your favorite place together. Listen to their favorite song. Meet with friends and tell your favorite memories. It may be hard, but you’ll be glad you did.
Most importantly, know that you don’t have to go through this hard weekend alone. God is there every step of the way giving you the strength and courage to make it through!
thank You for strength, peace, and courage that only YOU can give us. We pray for that strength as we take on this weekend of constant reminders of our lost loved ones. Help us to remember the love and the memories and not the loss. Give us peace and hope in the fact that our loved ones are with You in heaven, and we will see them again one day. Amen.